Editor's note: This piece by Valerie Klinker originally appeared on YO! Youth Outlook.

When I first heard that some place is paying young teenage girls to not get pregnant I thought I misheard--this, to me, was shocking. I don’t know how someone can pay a person to not do what their body is naturally supposed to do.

I am a mother and I think anyone who gets pregnant should have the opportunity to make a decision on what he or she wants to do and if they are ready to grow up. The reason I say that is because after you have a child you are no longer living for yourself: you can’t do the things you want to do or spend money on just anything you want, you will be living for your baby, you will have to make sure that everything you do benefits your child. You will have to teach, nurture, care of and love them unconditionally.

I am not trying to scare anyone, I am just trying to be honest and tell you how it really is. It isn’t just a walk in the park, especially if you choose to be a good parent. When I first found out I was pregnant with my son I was scared, confused, but overall happy because I knew I was keeping the baby. I knew that I would not be able to go through with an abortion. It’s not like I think I’m better than others, it’s just that I personally would not be able to deal with the way I would feel after.

I was pregnant, in school, in the process of getting housing, and working. I loved the way I felt--though not always because I was big, and got uncomfortable sometimes. But just the feeling of independence, and self-confidence made it worth it. My son is a handsome young man, he is about to be two, he does not use the bottle, he pees and poos in the potty. My son is 28 inches, 41 pounds and wears a size 8 ½ in shoes. I know I did a great job so far. No one should get taught that having a child is bad or is wrong.

I mean, I will not teach my daughter that, so I feel others should not do it. I would teach my daughter that she could get pregnant when she’s older and what she has to do to be protected. I well make sure she understands the things a girl, a young lady, or a woman is supposed to know.